I’m an international postgraduate student from the US. Often, I am asked about how I came to choose the University of Birmingham for my postgraduate study, which is a very reasonable question given that I picked a school in a different country. My answer always pertains to how I found out about the University through an athletic program, existing to give people the opportunity to continue their athletic careers after their undergraduate study, but I find that answer to be way too simple. My primary purpose of coming to UoB had nothing to do with me trying to chase some track and field dream. I could have done that in the US as a fifth year. I came to UoB because I wanted something new out of life. For the first twenty-two years of my life I lived around the Massachusetts area. That’s where I grew up, that’s where I went to school, and that’s where I would have stayed if I didn’t spread my wings. I always had the fallback plan of leaning on my parents for things in the US. I would always say to myself that they would take care of the difficult matters if the difficult matters seemed too hard for me to handle. However, that was always a fact that was killing me on the inside. I knew that the final part of my maturity would be to be able to consistently handle hard things on my own, and moving to Birmingham has so far forced me into doing that.
Since I left the US, and the crutch of my parents across the lake, I have already found that the responsibilities that I used to think would be extremely hard actually aren’t difficult at all. In two weeks in Birmingham I have learned how to cook chicken, pasta, and rice. I have learned the wonders of the stove top, making things like French toast, omelets, and grilled cheese. All of these things are so simple to make, yet they were things that I refused to even try to make for the first part of my life. I have learned where to look when I shop, which was an even harder challenge than learning how to shop in the US because a lot of the stores in the UK were unrecognizable when I first arrived. In retrospect, I have learned that the maintenance of my home and lifestyle are things that I have to control. My mother is no longer going to be there making dinner in the afternoon every day, and my father is no longer going to be there to fix the oven when it does something weird. I am the one who has to fix the problems, and though it is not a bad thing to receive help, at this point in my life I think there is a great value to learning on my own, which is why I chose to come to Birmingham for my postgraduate study.